But what happens if your parents grew up in a home where there was a lot of rage, your parents are terrified of rage, so they give you the message that good little girls don’t get angry. The message that you get is that angry little girls don’t get loved. So, to maintain your relationship with your parents, then you – not consciously, but automatically – your brain will repress anger in order to maintain the relationship with parents who can’t handle your anger. Because maintaining that relationship is the only way to ensure your survival. It’s been shown in studies after studies that repression of anger also represses the immune system, so you get e.g. colitis.
Because the two systems are part of the same supersystem, and because healty anger and the immune system have the same function, which is to protect you. So suppressing your self-protection in one way is suppressing it in another way as well, and that same system will then turn against you, and now you get an autoimmune disease.
The emotional repression disorganizes the immune system.
Gabor Maté – The Roots of Healing – “Sounds True” (Tami Simon), https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P38fhtdWFhY[🡕]